You Know what really Grinds my Gears?..
The word Hypocrisy, I bet you a hypocrite came up with that one, you know the saying "it takes one to know one"?
Hypocrisy is an unconscious self-contradiction: a state of incongruence between one's professed beliefs and feelings and one's actual beliefs and feelings, or an application of a criticism to others that one does not apply to oneself.
See an unconscious self-contradiction well we all do those, thought we do them unconsciously so we don't even realize it, it takes some righteous a-hole to point this out to you for you to realize.
Take for instance the dieter who announces to the world they are better than you because they're eating a salad.. but unknown to them the dressing has a million calories, until someone points it out..Boo!!!!
A state of incongruence between one's professed beliefs and feelings and one's actual beliefs and feelings, kinda like cloth diapering if you're a fluff addict like me, you probably rant and rave about how awesome they are but you might whine everytime you have to change a poopie diaper.
See we're all hypocrites in one way or another.. but the most dreaded kind.. the kind that grinds my gears:
An application of a criticism to others that one does not apply to oneself.
Hypocrisy is an unconscious self-contradiction: a state of incongruence between one's professed beliefs and feelings and one's actual beliefs and feelings, or an application of a criticism to others that one does not apply to oneself.
See an unconscious self-contradiction well we all do those, thought we do them unconsciously so we don't even realize it, it takes some righteous a-hole to point this out to you for you to realize.
Take for instance the dieter who announces to the world they are better than you because they're eating a salad.. but unknown to them the dressing has a million calories, until someone points it out..Boo!!!!
A state of incongruence between one's professed beliefs and feelings and one's actual beliefs and feelings, kinda like cloth diapering if you're a fluff addict like me, you probably rant and rave about how awesome they are but you might whine everytime you have to change a poopie diaper.
See we're all hypocrites in one way or another.. but the most dreaded kind.. the kind that grinds my gears:
An application of a criticism to others that one does not apply to oneself.
(Insert your example here) We all know someone, some group, some example of this.. I wont make one because I'd offend a bunch of people lol.. I'd rather not. But yeah.. if you fit here you grind my gears!
Politicians and Election time
You know, with age I have become more and more cynical when it comes to politics I'm neither right nor left blue nor red. I'm a third party voter I am sick and tired of the never ending conservative vs liberal merry go round that gets us nowhere! I blame both equally! They both sicken me, they both don't get anything done! It seemed like yesterday it was 2008 and the country was all about "hope" now that hope has turned to blame. The thought of 2012 and a new election year churns my stomach, Can I just fast forward that part and get it over with? I'm tired of people fighting among themselves, whining and complaining, yet voting for the same douche bags. *le sigh!
People that tell you how to parent when either A) they don't have kids or B) Their only real experience is a baby. No, babysitting older children doesn't count.. living, inhaling and living with your own kid 24/7 is what counts.. remember kids only mess with their own parents. I don't write about parenting anyone older than 5 because I have no freaking clue! I would just totally make people laugh, or irritated depending on their sense of humor.
anyway there's my rant for right now..
What grinds YOUR gears? If it's me it's ok.. the feeling is mutual.. just kidding I know I grind people's gears sometimes.. no one is exempt from annoying others, we're all annoying roomates in this here earth. So do tell... what grinds your gears? Go for it.. Vent!
GUILTY! Sometimes I talk about my experiences with older kids because I'm a preschool teacher, BUT (if I may defend myself, haha) I always say that my view is from a teacher's perspective and that I'm only the parent of a tiny baby.
ReplyDeleteMostly I just talk about it with parents who are expressing concern over their preschool aged children's development, usually to calm their fears and let them know that there is a huge range of normal at that age.
So do I have to go sit in time out for that offense? :P
Oh yeah that's VERY different! they're seeking your advice and you are giving it from a professional point of view.. if anyone knows about their child outside the home is you.. more often than not they act way different outside the home environment, The Parents of my daytime kids are often surprised when I tell them "hey Johnny is a very calm creative boy, I'd look into channeling his energy into projects, cooking with you etc".. they're like my johnny?? the temper tantrum throwing destroyer of all that is good and holy kid? WOW! lol.
ReplyDeleteI suppose i'm talking more along the lines of people saying I would NEVER (blah blah blah) My child! My child will be perfect because I am doing so and so! "how difficult is to la dee da with Johnny" etc etc.. So no time out for you! you get a shiny star sticker on your forehead for being a nice teacher that takes time to ease people's minds.
Now I feel intimidated by you with all my bad grammar and run on sentences because you're a teacher I feel like any time now you'll bust out your ruler and slap my hand ha ha!
What grinds my gears is... Not being able to discuss my parenting passions (cloth diapering, breastfeeding, BLW, and more) because I will offend someone. If you are confident in your choices, WHY are you so threatened by mine. The worst is when people are offended by the facts and take it personally. By definition facts are objective and do not exist to hurt your damn feelings!
ReplyDeleteOh and not relevant, but my #1 pet peeve right now is fashion bloggers without style.
Also, I totally agree with you on people announcing their education as if it means something. So annoying and has nothing to do with aptitude or life experience.
Seriously, your comment about people with children who like to give out parenting advice. My best friend is one of those. Seriously grinds my gears. My baby was two hours old. TWO HOURS. She started to cry so my husband picked her up and she says, "You're spoiling her already. She's already got you wrapped around her finger." WTF?
ReplyDeletespoiling her at 2 hours? suree... some people are just cuckoo!! lol...
ReplyDelete@Janine "facts are objective and do not exist to hurt your damn feelings!" EXACTLY! funny thing is those kind of people are always so quick to hurt your feelings as their twisted defense mechanism.. they "feel" attacked so they go for the jugular. Then they dare act the victim... REALLY grinds my gears too!
You think Fashion Bloggers without style would fall under the hypocritical category? hehehe