Friday, August 26, 2011
Alright.. I am done working for the day... I have taken a nice shower with the tot.. and now I sit here on my last day as a 30 yr old about to type some awesomeness I even have myself a nice glass of Celebratory chardonnay next to me.. Yes I am 33 weeks pregnant, yes I still nurse and yes I am drinking a glass of wine.. *GASP! not for you? kudos.. cuz it's definitely is for me.. ahh yeah.. *sip.
So I missed my blogaversary day.. but a year ago I started rambling about parenting.. why? Because just like many other people out there I like expressing myself, I found writing somewhat therapeutic (until the negative nancy's and the asshats rain on my parade) and well I write about what I feel and what I know..
now do I know parenting? fuck no! as good old Socrates said:
"I know that I know nothing!" it's true!
The impreciseness of the paraphrase of this as "I know that I know nothing" stems from the fact that the author is not saying that he does not know anything but means instead that one cannot know anything with absolute certainty but can feel confident about certain things. *wikipedia (fuck yeah I like wikipedia sue me!)
AHH let's repeat that.. in case some of you missed it.
"the author is not saying that he does not know anything but means instead that one cannot know anything with absolute certainty but can feel confident about certain things."
I don't know about any of the parenting choices I have made, am making and will make with absolute certainty but do I feel confident? Fuck yeah!
and that my friends is what I have learned in the past year..
I have not blogged as much lately and frankly it is because of the "know it alls" and the "tell you to's" out there.. who are they to tell me how to raise my children?
One thing is informing about breastfeeding, circumcision, vaccines, birth.. INFORMING not pushing.. and even so whatever the hell someone chooses to do after being informed it's their freaking prerogative just be comfortable with your choice I have ALWAYS said that.. don't be whining about me making you feel guilty when it was clearly your choice, to do, not do, feed, not feed, cut not cut.. etc etc..
Another thing is telling people not to praise your kids or tell your daughter's their beautiful.( I love how my friend Christy Wrote about that.. I couldn't have said it better myself!) .., what gender neutral colors to put on your child.. how Disney characters are so evil... to all those people HA! MY children are not YOUR social experiment.. yours are mine are not.. you have the right to say what ever you want and you might find some crazies out there that believe what you do but is your asexual, only wears white mystery child named "Y" better than mine? I don't know man.. let's talk about it in 20 years if your kid is well rounded, and doesn't hate you or have issues then I'll eat my words meanwhile I laugh.
So anyway.. what was my point.. oh yeah.. I have not blogged because I don't want to be that person..
I don't want to tell you what to do.. I don't know any better.. I am not an expert and I am too fickle and change my mind often. who cares what I say!
In the grand scheme of things.. I want to be remembered as the mother who enjoyed her children and loved them and squeezed the and played with them.. not just one who sat in front of a computer and wrote about how you should to the same...
Peace, Love and Happiness to all!
what a year!
Saturday, August 6, 2011
This isn't a positive post.. nor informative.. I wanted to write something nice and witty but all that came out was this bitter rant... was this specific to a person? Oh goodness no... I know LOTS of negative Nancy's unfortunately... but in the past week I have found one too many... and thus this rant... enjoy.. or not... P.S blogger doesn't let me comment on my own posts so boo! ..
I'm gonna get straight to the point here..
In the age where humans interact via means like facebook there are certain things we need to keep in mind.
1. Not every post that offends you was meant to offend you..
2. You are not exempt from offending people either
3. You never really know the whole story behind someone's vent, rant, opinion
4. Just because Jane manages to get your panties in a bunch doesn't mean they are a horrible person.
5. The world doesn't revolve around you so stop taking things so personally.
Here is where I'm getting at..
We all have them.. the "friend" or "liker" who 90% of the time is MIA, yet when you manage to say the wrong thing or post the wrong picture or article they are the very first to jump on the boat and criticize, throw a tantrum, point fingers, call names, cry foul and whine about how you royally pissed them off, offended them and how you are so horrible. (sometimes they get a gang of friends to come back them up)
Half the time I don't care.. If someone is never around and they pop their head out just to complain I shrug them off, their opinion doesn't matter to me sad but why should I care when their interaction is not there for when I really do need it? coming up for air just to complain makes you look like a total asshat!
And this is sad when the person has an actual point or constructive criticism.. because I would be more inclined to acknowledge them if they put a bit more effort into interacting and being there.. I would be more inclined to care about the person's feelings thus accommodating them and apologizing for my douchebaggery.. I know I'm wrong sometimes (Sometimes! Don't get too excited hahahaha) but I will be more willing to take the blow if I cared two ships about you.
So think about this when you go around interacting with people everyday... are you only popping out to complain? if so... maybe try to comment here and there and say something nice... then when you do complain.. people might actually care :P