If I didn't have my husband's help, If I were a single mom, If I were a military mom, you bet your sweet heiny that things would be different. I could not sit here preaching about being a "gentle parent" To me it would be impossible.. I have a temper.. I have anger issues.. I get frustrated easily, Yelling to me is like breathing sometimes.. I don't even think I'm doing it and I am.. Now don't worry I got most of it under control, on most days.. and my daytime kids never really bring this out of me they're perfect angels because I'm not their mom.. Yeah.. kids only seem to mess with their own parental units.
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I do sometimes like her feistyness.. if a stranger, family member dared questioned my parenting and called her a brat.. I'd be quick to say my child is witty, strong willed and Lucky to be able to express herself freely and I'd accompany that with my tongue sticking out at them. But in reality it's difficult.. but I didn't get into the parenting rollercoaster to have a boring easy ride did I? I didn't know what I was getting myself into but I knew it wasn't going to be easy and I knew I really wanted to do it.. I just happen to scream in horror every once in a while when the rollercoaster looks like it's going to take a turn for impending doom.. then I laugh when I realize I made it.Doesn't mean I want off nor that I'm gonna just close my eyes the rest of the way.
ANYWAY....
Back to what the point was.. I am grateful that my husband helps.. I think we make a perfect team.. Together we may not make ":super parent" but we help each other up when the other one's down.. We carry each other when we can't walk anymore. And there's always teaming up against the wretched 5 yr old.. when we both say no all hell breaks loose and well.. at least then we can laugh about it..
But I don't just want to sit here and brag about my awesome life partner ..partner in life...
I want to send a shout out to all single moms, married moms who are like single moms (for one reason or another sometimes it can be work, sometimes it can be just the way things are) Military moms.. Who still manage to be gentle parents..
You all rock my socks.. I don't know how you do it.. I'm a Pansy! And you deserve acknowledgement for riding this rollercoaster in the front seat with the bollocks that you have!
Much love! <3
A gentle mom with help.
I SO relate to this post! I was a single parent to my son, who I choose to call "challenging" at times:)
ReplyDeleteIt was HARD! There was alot of yelling. I am now married to a very gentle, patient man. He adopted my son, and we adopted a baby girl together, who is now 8 months old. I have seen first hand how it is both ways. And let me tell you, it is way way way better with 2 parents.
Thanks for reminding me of how lucky I am!
Great post! I can relate as well. I have similar moments.....
ReplyDeleteThank goodness I have the help of my hubby, friends and family. You know the saying... "it takes a village!"
i am a sort of single mom. my man works on the road in the music industry and we hardly ever see him. he was just gone for 2 1/2 months and is home now for 1 week. even tho he is gone a lot, i feel the same way. he supports me in all my gentle parent ideas and even promotes them to the rappers he works with. life is great (hard but great) when you have a greaat partner!
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