How to make Dust Bunnies out of your Facebook "friends".

I have been meaning to do this for my Facebook Challenged friends who are always finding themselves in a pickle because they can't say no and deny friend requests from not necessarily welcomed people like coworkers, family, annoying acquaintances etc.

Also this comes in Handy for people like me who have a variety of friends who are fine and dandy but are easily offended by your unconventional and radical thoughts.. for Example I have a grouped friends into a "christian" category.. nothing bad with it.. but sometimes "what is on my mind" can be a little crude for a Jesus loving person being that I am not religious, so In order to keep the peace and not offend them (though I could say I have been offended many a times by them *sigh)  I spare them from potentially seeing any heretic spewing of mine.


Anyway.. Lets say Cousin James added you simply because you are family, now cousin James is a real uptight conservative jerk who only seems to reply when you offend him with your thoughts, How dare you have any! Stick to your kids and house cleaning woman! Well instead of deleting him and making things awkward at the next family gathering, simply put him in limbo or as I call it.. put him in a dust bunny status.

Dust Bunnies.. they're there, you don't see them, they don't see you..but they're there.  Hide them, Hide yourself from them and they will still be on your friends list just not bothering you.

So here we go..

On your home page's left hand side click on "friends"

Click on "Edit Friends"

Click on "create List"

Name your list and select "friends" to add to it Once done click on Create list.. You now Have a list.

then go to your upper right hand corner and click on "account" then "privacy settings" You then click on "customize settings"

You can then Customize what the dust bunnies can see for example you can make it so the posts you make are seen by everyone except dust bunnies or friends only except dust bunnies.. they will never see your posts. (keep current with FB changes though and check once in a while to make sure this is the case still as they have been known to change it back without telling you)  You can also hide the dust bunnies from seeing other parts of your profile like pictures, info etc. You then go to a post of theirs hide them indefinitely and you wont see them either unless you look for them on their page :)

Ah and my favorite.. when I really want to write what is on my mind.. and I don't want to cause drama and "offend" people  on the same spot where you write your status, there is a lock, click on it and you can control who sees it for example I want to post about vax or something and I know Sensitive Suzie will come out from hiding and cry about it then I just click on my trusty "mainstream" list and hide them! <3  No harm no foul. 

Hope this was helpful and save you from headaches, tantrums and having to give up and delete your page because you don't feel like it's yours anymore :)  I don't see it as censoring myself I see it as excluding people who can get easily offended.. they don't wanna see it anyway right?.. and don't get me wrong some of these people I really love we just don't see eye to eye on some matters and would rather keep the peace.

2 weeks shy of halfway there...

So Lets talk about this little Booger..  #3  So far this pregnancy has been going fast, DD#1 has been super excited about it and I think this time I will have her at the birth, I am not dead set on it as I thought I was going to have her around while giving birth to DD#2 but the pain was so intense after a while that I just had to have someone take her away, I was worried she would be scared.  I think this time though she understands more, it has only been a year but it seems like she has matured more... perhaps the year made a difference or perhaps at that very moment she went from being the baby I had to protect to being the big sister.


DD#2 Is growing like a weed! She has a great personality, such a clown always trying to make us laugh! She loves being the center of attention. She is walking and talking a bit. Her favorite toy is a baby doll which she nurses. Which makes me sad as the milk is slowly disappearing but she still comfort nurses :)

BB#3 Well growing as well, we have an appt with the midwife later this week, it should be uneventful though. My last one was at 14 weeks, My Midwife could not hear a heartbeat so we went for a sonogram turns out placenta was anterior.. (no biggie just means it was in the way) and we found out the gender!  Yep We found out already... We told everyone we weren't  finding out but it was a lie.. we were going to find out at the first chance.  SO we have known for the past month what BB#3 is but we're not telling! haha! Well at least not to everyone, we have told some people,  Why did we do this?

Simple.. I get annoyed easily by people's insensitive comments. If We were to have a girl I don't want to hear "Poor hubby" or  Better luck next time.. or 3 girls wow!  F' that If I am to have another girl I want to hear the same.. congrats! yaay! and that's it!

If I were to have a boy I don't want to hear.. "oh finally you get a boy" or Yaay now you have each gender, or are you finally done?  F' that too! If I were to have a boy I want to hear Congrats!  yaay! and that's it! I don't want people making a big deal because of a boy.

So either way it'd be equally annoying.. I'd rather announce yaay here's BB#3 and it's a .....!  Yaay!  

And there is just something so wickedly  cool about knowing and having it be a secret :)


So far Homebirth #2 is still the plan!  I can't wait for this baby to get here! :)

Humility the lesson that didn't get taught.

Humility (adjectival form: humble) is the quality of being modest, reverential, even politely submissive, and never being arrogant, contemptuous, rude or even self-abasing. Humility, in various interpretations, is widely seen as a virtue in many religious and philosophical traditions, being connected with notions of transcendent unity with the universe or the divine, and of egolessness. *wikipedia

Not an example of humility.

Last night with the news of Osama Bin Laden's death,  I was Happy to see most of my friends and Facebook acquaintances share the same sentiments.. What's going to happen now?  Why are they showing people cheering on the streets like they just told them they won a million dollars?  How are the anti-Americans going to react?  Why should we be happy and rejoicing over someones death?  A life is a life no matter how evil. Getting this man after almost 10 yrs is anti climactic as my blogger friend over at Fine and Fair expressed.
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I am happy for the people fighting this war and the people who have been victims for the past 10 years.. 10 years!! let's not forget it's been that long!  Maybe this can bring some closure or some sense into this senseless war that has been going on for 10 years! I am happy for them and I hope they get to come home.. but I am afraid.

Kill the "queen bee" and the swarm will probably attack you, then they will be quiet.. making a new queen, regrouping.  Killing the queen bee will not destroy the hive..  The war is sadly far from over.


"An Eye for an Eye makes the whole world go blind" Said Ghandi.

Ok,.. now how does this pertain to parenting... Check this article out on bullying

Hit Back At Bullies? Not At This School

"This is the circle of bullying," Pearre explains during a classroom meeting devoted to the subject. She points to a chart that illustrates the roles: passive supporters, followers, the bully, the victim, and possible defenders

Watching this class, any former middle schooler might recoil and think, "It's wrong to rat on friends." And student Jay Kulkarni voiced what every boy listening to this lesson had to be thinking: "So if someone comes up to you and like, punches you, or does something physically violent, how do you defend yourself? Do you just stand there and watch?"


Don't let it get to that point, kids are told. Don't resort to violence, because it's wrong. And, as Pearre explains, it will land you in even bigger trouble

"Frederick County Public Schools has a zero-tolerance policy for any kind of physical violence," she warns

This is what we tell our children.. then we parade around happy about all of this.. attacking others with the word "unAmerican"  for not feeling the same way. What are our children learning from us?  Not Humility that's for sure.
 
I am not saying we should have treated Bin Laden to a bed of roses.. I am just saying be careful how you act in front of young impressionable minds.. and don't believe for a second that this is all over... sadly I am realizing after 10 years.. this is probably still only the beginning.  Call me Pessimistic..  but I am afraid.
 
And another thing I am American! I love this country.. and because of that I don't want to see it destroyed by hate.
 
Imagine there's no Heaven

It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one